Someone I know closely once said to me,"A girl either struggles before her marriage or after her marriage. I think I am struggling now." She was unmarried then. And her struggles, you ask? Well, she didn't get along with her brother's wife who always accused her of things she didn't do; and the brother often …
Tag: Experiences
New Mothers and Grandmothers
I had always wondered why it is a ritual in our society that a woman goes to her mother's home to deliver her child. When I was pregnant with my daughter last year and once she was born in the first month of this year, I got my answers. The reason is the mother of …
Winter Warmth
Sunshine during the day, oranges in the afternoon and a cosy fireplace in the evenings. That is how I have always known winters to be. That is how we spend winters in Assam. That is how I wish my winters to be each year. I grew up in the educational town of Assam, Jorhat (in …
A Personnel Letter
Dear Employee, I know you believe with your heart and head that HR (traditionally known as the Personnel department) is a good-for-nothing department. You think that we come to work just to idle away our time and get salaries for free. And that our only job is to hire people and making your salaries …
When You Care
I believe you can take care of other people only when you are truly concerned about them. An exception may be when you are a caregiver by profession. But again, you can truly be honest in the same when you empathize with those who need your care. Families spend years together under the same …
Looking Married
They - "You are married!"Me - "Yeah....."They - "But you don't look married at all!!!!" I get this a lot. From colleagues, acquaintances, salon staff to random people I meet. Many of my office colleagues assumed that I am single and are surprised when I mention my husband or in-laws in my casual talks. …
If You Have To Compare
The problem with most of us is that we always want to live someone else's lives. We set the so-called "happiness standards" based on the visible lives of others. We are haunted by their apparent "happy and happening" lives, thanks to the omnipresent social media. Based on their visible lives around us and on social …
First Impressions
First meetings can be deceiving. We cannot really judge a person on the basis of a single meeting, unless we are psychic. Yet we mostly go by first impressions. But beware, because our quick judgements may impact our lives forever. As a kid we were always told, "The first impression is the last impression". …
Foodie, really?
You say you love food and that you love to eat. So you call yourself a "foodie". Hhhhmmm. Let's check out the following. I hate sharing my favourite food. Let me have it quickly when nobody is around. I see something I like in your lunchbox. Hand it over to me! What's that on …
Empowering Sisterhood
From time immemorial, men has testified that women are complex beings. Being a woman myself, I can admit the same without the slightest flinch. Apparently for the same reasons, woman-to-woman dynamics are complex too. The relation may be of family, friends, colleagues, neighbors or simply acquaintances, it does not matter. It is only …
