Good News Delivered

In our society, family planning is a matter of public concern. Once you get married, you are expected to procreate immediately, as if it is the only reason you got married for. I have already elaborated this social trauma earlier in my post, The “Good” News. But even delivering good news has consequences!

Once you cross the three year mark of your married life without having any children, it is assumed that you have infertility issues. No matter how much you try to explain that nothing’s wrong with you, nobody listens. They assume that you are lying. Worse, the wife is automatically assumed to be one with some problem with her reproductive system. Aunties will suggest that you consult a doctor.

When we decided that we are ready to start a family, we sought out a non-commercial gynaecologist and obstetrician for guidance. She prescribed me nothing but prenatal supplements. We announced our pregnancy in our seventh year of marriage. Planning a baby so late is blasphemy in our society. Matters were worse because my sisters-in-law, who got married four years after us, were pregnant within year of their weddings. So relatives and acquaintances assumed that something was wrong with us. Let alone women, even my brother-in-law asked why did we start seeing a doctor in the first place and if I had any other issue before conceiving.

Having children is life long responsibility. And we wanted to take time before plunging into parenthood. Also, being eldest in the family already meant a lot of responsibilities and we wanted things to settle down before the baby arrived. But who is interested in such explanations! Also nobody believed that we consulted a doctor just for guidance. The spice of the matter was in simply gossiping that we had medical problems.

So here I am now, mother of almost two month old girl cherub, born through normal delivery. But I am still under scrutiny for having a baby after seven years of marriage. Women in the family are citing my example as a case of successful treatment. And that I should share my doctor details with other couples without children, most of whom, I am sure, haven’t decoded yet to start a family.

I know I can’t go on explaining why we had a baby late (going by societal standards). But please people, keep your concerns to your kind selves and mind your own business. It is my life and my body. I know my priorities and concerns of my life better than anyone else. And don’t even start advising now that our little girl should have a sibling soon to play with!

So ladies, if you are in the same ship as me, don’t give a fig to what aunties and other people are saying to you. Start a family when you want to and are ready. And if are not keen on having kids, it is entirely up to you. At the end of the day, it is your and your partner’s decision, and nobody else’s. Period.

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  1. Pingback: When We Finally ‘Delivered Good News’ Everyone Thought We Were 7 Years Too Late! – My Blog

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